Blu Lake- Professional Corporate & Life Coach

Last month I shared what many people say are the three hardest things about retirement. Let’s now explore some considerations required to prepare for this phase of life. I mentioned last month that retirement doesn’t mean stopping, it’s a transition to a new, exciting phase of life. You may spend more time in retirement than in your traditional working life so you’re looking for ways to live your dreams…ways to achieve Bold Age.

So if it’s not about stopping, what does it mean then? This is exactly where I advise clients to start from when they are considering their retirement phase; design a retirement that positively excites you!

“I don’t want to be labelled as retired, so what do I call it?”
When I start a coaching relationship with a client one of the first things we do is establish what they want to call this phase of life if the connotations conjured by ‘retirement’ irks them. Some words or phrases I have come across so far are ‘repurposing’, ‘my time’, ‘reinvention’, ‘renewal’ and ‘next career’.

Putting it into your own words means you are already more engaged in and excited about what this period could hold for you, you have started to set a vision for what you want from this phase in life.  So, you are already in control of what initially seemed like an unknown abyss!

“So far my life has been driven by others such as my job and kids, so how do I work out what’s important to me once that structure has changed?”
I work from the basis that all of our thoughts, feelings and actions in life come as a result of the values and beliefs we hold. Unfortunately, in the busy-ness of life we can lose sight of what values we hold dear and also what inner beliefs help or hinder us, which means we aren’t living our lives by our own standards anymore.

The impact of this can be, at best, leading a mediocre life with a niggling feeling that something is missing or, at worst, being completely unfulfilled in life and possibly depressed.

Through my Bold Age retirement coaching programme I help clients to press the reset button on what’s important to them; what drives them, what lights their fire, so that the plan they create is in accordance with this. This is incredibly liberating and enlightening for people.

“I hear horror stories about people dying within months of their retirement because they stopped, how do I stay alive?!” Obviously every case is different because there are so many variables involved in death, and I don’t offer a magic pill for a longer life! What I do work on with clients is helping them establish what their new purpose, identity and routine looks like in this phase of life.

Studies have shown that people who believe their life has meaning live for longer than those with a lower sense of wellbeing. For example, about 9,000 people over age 65 were followed for eight and half years as part of a study published in the Lancet.

Happier people tended to outlive their less fulfilled peers. Over the eight years, just 9% of people in the highest wellbeing category died, compared to 29% in the lowest category. To thrive in this next phase, you will need a reason to jump out of bed in the morning. It doesn’t matter what it is, it just has to resonate with you and your values.

“This is big stuff, when do I start planning?”
With all of this, starting earlier rather than later means it becomes much easier and you are shaping your whole life by what’s important to you and your family, small step by small step - I work with people from mid 40s onwards.

If you are ready for achieving your Bold Age, contact me now for a free 30-minute consultation.
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